Hindsight is like a bone of fish stuck in the throat.
It can be hurtful when you realize, much later in life, that you had the opportunity to do something but didn’t.
Every day, your choices, decisions, and actions add up, and somewhere down the road, you’re going to come face-to-face with their consequences.
Some of the choices and actions you take today will lead to regrets.
You sacrifice your relationships to achieve your goals
We’re so busy chasing our dreams, building our careers, and trying to get a better life that we sometimes forget to pay attention to the people that matter to us.
At some point in your life, your relationships—the time you spend with people you love—turn out to be of more value than the money in your account.
At some point, you’ll just want to be around the few people who make you smile for all the right reasons.
Most people don’t realize just how important their absence from the home is to their spouse, kids, relatives, colleagues, and friends.
True, you need to work hard and make as much money as you can. That’s important. But you do a lot of good, both for yourself and for the people you care about. When you spend time with them, listen to them without hurrying out to the next meeting or event.
You’ll regret not spending enough quality time with the right people.
Spend more time with those who help you love yourself more—spend more time with those who make you feel good, and less time with those who you feel pressured to impress.
Never be too busy to make room in your day for the ones who matter most. And remember that nothing you can give will ever be more appreciated than your sincere, focused attention—your full presence. meeting or event.
You fail to express your love openly and honestly with those you care about
You can be with someone without them actually knowing how much you care about them.
Because they don’t want anything to go wrong, most people are sometimes afraid to communicate their feelings. This is unhealthy and can even cause all kinds of problems for your body and mind.
There’s no escaping the fact that you’ll lose people in your life. Also, no matter how much you care about someone or how much time you spend with them, some relationships will not appear as if you gave it your all.
So, you don’t want to wait until it’s too late to learn this important lesson. Tell the people in your life what you feel for them. Give compliments when it’s necessary. Let them know what you think about them.
Most people don’t do this, and it costs them down the road (see the chart).
You’re setting yourself up for regrets when you shy away from expressing how you feel or having important conversations, no matter how uncomfortable. It might be hard for everyone, but you’ll save yourself some regrets down the road.
Your choices and actions are motivated by the need to impress others at the expense of your desires
Many people, as surprising as it may seem, do not live for themselves. Every decision or action they take is to make someone else happy, impress others, and gain approval or acceptance from others.
When people look back on their lives, one of the most common regrets they have is lacking the guts to live a life true to themselves rather than the life others expected of them.
You see, living your life to impress others, whether it’s your parents, spouse, teachers, coworkers, boss, or pastor, is a surefire way to premium tears and regrets.
There’s nothing more rewarding than living your most authentic self and making choices and decisions that reflect your personality and values rather than those of someone else.
If you spend too much time worrying about how others see you or attempt to be the person they want you to be so that you can earn their love and acceptance, you’ll eventually lose yourself.
You could make a truckload of money and spend lots of it to impress people, but you’ll still be unhappy and full of regret.
If you don’t want to look back on your life and regret not living it on your terms, honoring your own inner goals, and being true to who you want to be, let go of your fear of being judged by others, no matter who they are.
You allow fear and uncertainty to paralyze you from taking positive actions
“When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life.” — Eckhart Tolle
Uncertainties are embedded in every fabric of life.
All of our hard decisions are about navigating uncertainties.
“If I quit my job, will I find a new one in time?”
“If I quit this relationship, will I get someone to accept and care for me?”
The truth is that no one can ever be sure. That’s why you dither and dither about making decisions, frightened of making a mistake you won’t be able to undo.
But if you want to unlock your possibilities, you’ll have to embrace uncertainty. You cannot allow the fact that you’re unsure of the outcomes of your decisions to stop you from stepping forward.
The worst that can happen is that you’re wrong, and if that’s the case, you’ll have the time to make things up and move on with your life.
Some of the most amazing things that will happen to you in life will come from embracing your fears and taking a risk, no matter how uncertain it might be. That’s what it means to truly live.
One day, however, you’re going to look back with regrets and wonder what might have been. You’ll look back and think you could have done more with your life but didn’t because you didn’t embrace uncertainties.
And the truth is, it’s going to feel much worse to discover that your fears were unfounded and your hunch was wrong.
Focusing on failures instead of opportunities
Because life is full of uncertainties, it’s unlikely that everything you put your hands on will go according to plan.
Part of what makes life beautiful is that we can always learn from our mistakes and failures.
Look at children; they learn to walk by walking. They take a step, stumble, and fall. Countless times! But it never stops them. Each fall is an opportunity to learn.
Tony Robbins once said, “No matter how many mistakes you make or how slowly you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.”
You can’t let yourself stop trying every time you fail or make mistakes. You can’t focus on your failures and close your eyes to opportunities that you could unlock by trying again.
Because it is really by failing and learning from your mistakes that you’re able to avoid making the mistake a second time.
For sure, it’s better to try, make mistakes, and fail than to live a life with the regrets of never trying. This is how you enrich your life with lessons from your adventures.
“Try and fail, but don’t fail to try.”
— John Quincy Adams
You paralyze yourself from taking action by overthinking everything
Most of us waste our time overthinking, procrastinating, and waiting for the perfect time before we pursue our dreams.
You’ll never find a perfect time to do something that will change your life. There won’t be a perfect time to launch your business, write your book, or start a new career.
Realizing this early helps you avoid regrets because then you can get down to getting a lot more meaningful work done.
Victor Hansen said:
Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.
So, if you want to have fewer regrets in your life, decide what you want to accomplish and go for it.
Any time you find yourself at a point where you’re not making progress or stuck in over-analysis and indecision, sit down, take a big breath, and break the cycle of overthinking by guessing what the next logical step should be, and then take it immediately.
Final Thought
There’s always that moment of reckoning for every one of us. You’re either satisfied with the outcomes of your choices and actions or you’re full of regrets for what you did or didn’t do.
And the truth is, it’s not always when you’re on your deathbed. That moment can come sooner.
The important thing is knowing what you need to do so that you can have fewer regrets.
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